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Time anxiety, or the lingering awful feeling that you never have enough time and/or are not doing enough with the time you do have to create a meaningful life, is on the rise these days. I hear it all the time from my clients that there isn’t enough time in the day.

Perhaps you can relate?

In this post I am going to share 3 strategies that will help you to take control of TIME and use it to your advantage.

What Actually Is TIME even?

Seems like a silly question. However, to beat time anxiety we first need to understand what time is. You see, time is a social construct. It does not exist. Humans created it in order to manage themselves within communities. How else would you make an appointment to see your doctor? Just line-up outside their office? We need time.

Therefore, time is a tool. Like a fork. We get to use it, it does not get to use us.

How freeing is that?!

So what can you do to overcome your fears and stop worrying that you do not have enough time? Let’s dive in…

How to Get Back More Time

1) Understand that BUSY is something you FEEL – NOT something you ARE

Let me say that again… YOU are not busy, you FEEL busy.

It is an emotion. According to neuroscientist Dr. Sarah Mckay, “Emotions are not reactions to the world. You are not a passive receiver of sensory input but an active constructor of your emotions. From sensory input and past experience, your brain constructs meaning and prescribes action.” This means that you can take control of your emotions by practicing new ones just like you practice anything else.

Ever wonder how successful people appear so busy all the time but not frazzled and stressed?

This is it. It’s a super important mindset shift.

So the next time you are FEELING busy, take some deep breaths and remember to check in with yourself and how you are perceiving this busyness.

2) Have a “Super Objective” or “Overarching Goal”

I like to call this my North Star Goal. Actors learn about this when studying a role. You see, characters are flat and dull when the actor does not understand the underlying objective that drives the their actions throughout the whole story.

This is because we relate to it. We are all driven by our objectives. What is yours?

It is the one thing that you’re aiming for that everything else can align to.

Once you’ve identified this you can use it to make all your future decisions. It will be easier to lean in and push through those nagging fears when you want to start something new, because you know that it is a stepping stone along your most aligned path.

Armed with this knowledge you will intuitively know what to prioritize and be driven to start.

3) Plan Plan Plan! – AND STICK TO IT!

How many unused agendas do you have lying around the house? They always start with the best intentions and then trickle off. It’s human nature after all! We are wired to take the path of least resistance, which means not having to schedule things and/or do things at a certain time. Thing is, you do not have to plan your entire life, week, or even day! But you should plan the things that are important.

What is more important than reaching your most aligned Overarching Goal? You put birthdays in the calendar, right?

At the start of your day, make a list of all the aligned things that you will get done that day. Then, take those things and plug them into your schedule. Anything that does not fit, check in with yourself to make sure you really want to do it. Is it in alignment with your North Star Goal? If yes, remember it for tomorrow. If not, cross it off the list –Yay! Done!

Great! Now you have a plan for the coming day/week, it is in alignment with your North Star Goal, and you do not have to worry about when you are going to get these things done. You scheduled it, so now you know it will get done on Tuesday. Yet, we all know that scheduling it is only half of the battle. Actually, it is probably more like a quarter of the battle. Now you need to follow through. That is the challenge.

You have to hold yourself accountable…

First, let’s talk about what happens when we do not follow through. It is no different than every other relationship really. When someone tells you they are going to do something and they do not do it, do you trust their word? No. Same goes for the self, every time you promise yourself you are going to do something and you do not do it, you learn not to trust yourself.

However, the best part is that the opposite is also true. Every time you DO follow through, you learn that you CAN trust yourself. So you have to commit to it and stick to it, which may be hard at first, but eventually it will become second nature as you rewire your brain to trust yourself.

But what about those times that I just want to be spontaneous and do whatever I feel like doing in the moment!?!?

Rubbish! No, you don’t because if you are always doing what you feel like in the moment you are going to be sleeping, scrolling through Social Media or watching Netflix. I am not saying to never do those things, just do not do them during the time you have scheduled for the things you want to get done.

When it comes down to it, you made the choice to schedule the task because it is aligned with your North Star goal, and you committed to yourself that you are going to do it. The commitments you make to yourself are the most important commitments to keep!

Looking For Support?

When you understand that being “busy” is a feeling and you choose to reframe your mindset, when you have a North Start Goal to keep you moving in alignment with your deepest values and wishes, when you know you have a plan on when to get things done, AND you trust that you will follow through, Time Anxiety becomes a thing of the past and you’ll free up more time and space to live your BEST life.

Time Anxiety has held me back from so many things. Not anymore. I would LOVE to help you overcome it as well. Schedule a FREE call today! and we can chat about how we can Rise Together.

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